Your Goal Isn’t to Win Your Ex Girlfriend Back—You Want Her Back for Ever

Your goal isn’t just to win your ex girlfriend back, you want her back for ever. Since you know the pain of losing her in the first place, you certainly do not want to experience the hurt again. Too often the first time around, you messed up. Now it’s time to look closely at that first time, evaluate it closely and determine the exact steps from this point on. There’s a good possibility you may have to change your standard M. O. Instead of a day by day relationship, you may want to think lifetime instead.

Since your goal isn’t merely to win your ex girlfriend back, you want plans to get her back for ever. Maybe the hard thing for you to change is to admit that you messed up. It’s hard for adults to face themselves in the mirror and say, “Man, you sure messed up.” Most adults want to find someone else to blame, but it could be, that in order to get her back for good, you may have to admit this.

As you do your soul searching, try to look objectively at yourself. Look at who you really are. Try to determine exactly what caused the break up with your ex girlfriend. Could the mistakes that you see in yourself be symptoms of a much larger problem. If so, do whatever is necessary to correct the problem(s). Otherwise, when she does come back, you’ll just lose her all over again.

The next thing to consider is that you really must regret what happened. Some of your friends may tell you that you have no regrets. They may try to convince you that you did nothing wrong; therefore, no guilt, no regrets.

Next, objectively evaluate the relationship and its demise. How much damage has been done. After the storm, you have to look at the home to determine exactly what has to be replaced or repaired. The same holds true for damage caused by a relationship storm. You have to identify exactly what has been torn up, and then make long-term plans to make the repairs. This damage assessment is necessary if you want your ex girlfriend back.

Then you will need to verify that you have a chance at getting her back. You could work hard at all the above, make a complete personality make-over and not have any chance at all of getting your ex girlfriend back. The damaged relationship is just too far gone. Sometimes you simply can’t get your self out of what you behaved your self into.

However, if all isn’t lost then the next thing you might consider is to engage in dialogue with your ex girlfriend. You have to determine first of all if she is interested in discussing anything at all. You may have to let her vent the first time. She may blast you! But the new you will refuse to become defensive. Remember, you’ve changed.

So you want her back for ever, your goal isn’t merely to win your ex girlfriend back. Aside from all the above things, one other thing you need to do. Show her much respect! You need to respect what she says, respect her feelings, respect her wishes and above all, treat her with respect. You do want her for ever, don’t you?

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